How do you make it in America?


The thought of following a dream, chasing that dream, holding on to that dream when only I can see it, happens to be the most agonizing, gut-wrenching, often times the disappointing feeling of hope. America? I don’t know! America, the land of the hopeful! America the place where dreams come true! America the land of hustle Flows! America oh, oh, oh, how do you make it in America? Continue reading “How do you make it in America?”

Sex and Marriage


The other day, I watched Bethenny Ever After, and on this particular episode, she introduced how tough the second year of marriage can be. One statement she made which struck a cord was that having sex three times a week was EXCESSIVE. I chuckled when I saw this because I kept thinking about the word “excessive.” Now I will be very real for a second, after listening to many married couples over the years, sex is definitely not a determining factor or the focal point of a marriage, however, it is the fun and often spontaneous aspect that most people wish to share, without guilt when they do get married. So three times a week is “excessive” pretty much shocked me. Being the person that I am, my curiosity ran wild and I decided to do some research, to figure out if that statement rang true in most marriages. I asked several married people and let’s just say it was a pretty accurate statement. The conversations however led into a much more in-depth discussion. Continue reading “Sex and Marriage”

WHY people Why?


I am completely baffled by the way we as African Americans are starting to think…I seriously just don’t understand exactly what we value anymore. I say WE because whether we like it or not, we are all a representation of each other. If you don’t believe me, think about it… If someone walks into a building and decides to act a fool, and I go into that same building  10 minutes later with a classy and demure attitude, how do you think I will be looked at? Let’s just say I will definitely have to work twice as hard to make a good impression. So my question is WHY people Why? Continue reading “WHY people Why?”

A Change Has Come with Damon Berry


I went to a concert last night, with some of my friends Alexandria and MO and we watched what I consider to be one of the best voices out there perform, Damon Berry, a Singer from Gary, Indiana. He blew my mind…Throughout his two hour performance, he took me back to my favorites, Barry White, Anita Baker and the lists went on. It seemed like I almost forgot how much music transcends the soul… Continue reading “A Change Has Come with Damon Berry”

Failed lessons Learned


Often times I look around and try to analyze why some lessons are just so hard for me to learn. Constantly pondering on similar decisions that should not be an option, somehow, still finds a role to play in my mind. These decisions are usually mistakes that I should have learned from. So I start to think,  when are my FAILED LESSONS, finally going to be LEARNED? Continue reading “Failed lessons Learned”