The other day I had a very interesting conversation with an entertaining young man. He had a beautiful little girl with him, and I was amazed by how gorgeous she was. When the opportunity presented itself for me to speak with him, I bragged about her beauty. I proceeded to ask him if she was his only child? He chuckled and then replied, ” I have three kids under the ages of 3.” That answer took me by surprise, and my facial expression would not allow me to hide my reaction. I must say, I was completely shocked. The shock value that I felt led me to my second question, ” What were you guys doing?” His response ” NO CABLE.” At this point, I could have rolled on the floor laughing. It had to have been one of the funniest things I had ever heard. At that moment series of questions and thoughts began to populate my mind. When I could finally compose myself, I asked him if he was married?
He told me that he was not married because his girlfriend is too jealous. My immediate response was, “you have three kids by a woman, that you do not plan on marrying because of her jealousy? and this is something you knew before impregnating her?” He responded “yes.” He also said, “I will marry her, she just has to change, and if the world does not end in 2012, then I definitely have to.” This response led to laughter and sadness all at the same time.
I kept thinking to myself, this girl was pregnant for like four years straight! ” That is deep!!!” But apart from that, the main issue at hand is how many people actually live their lives like this? This young man could not have been more than 25 years old and already he has to become a MAN and raise a family. The saddest part of it all is that he does not even nowhere to begin. Humorous conversation, but the lack of respect for the mother of his children and signifying that the reason he brought his children into the world was out of boredom, continued to leave me in awe.
Several things stuck out to me in this conversation.
1-allowing oneself to forever be connected to another without fully planning on committing.
2- The lack of self-respect of oneself which hinders the proper growth and established an environment for the children to reap many benefits.
………………and finally allowing oneself to build life bonds with a person who’s flawed one will never accept.
My question to all is how many of us actually make DUMB decisions based on NO CABLE?